Hate To Say It, But…

They’re the six words every girl would rather rip their own hair out than hear: he’s just not that into you. Very little sucks more than to meet a guy, develop feelings, be lured into a false sense of security, and then BAM! He starts being weird, ignoring you, or lays it out straight up – “sorry, babe, but it’s just not going to work out…” No matter how he does it, it still hurts. A lot. Here are a few life hacks that can help guide you through this dreaded situation.

If he’s not texting…

Cease communication. Nothing is more unflattering than blowing up someone’s phone, let alone the phone that belongs to the unrequited object of your affection. If you sense the textual chemistry starting to dwindle, abandon ship. One of my very good friends has a strict rule: let them text you first. I wish I could say that I had the will power to execute this, but alas I do not. However, if he’s giving you one word responses, the dreaded “lol”, or just issues radio silence altogether, it’s time to move on.

If he’s not introducing you to his friends…

Just as it’s a great sign to have him bring you around to meet the important people in his life, it’s an equally awful sign if he’s avoiding it like the plague. This isn’t to say that if two weeks in he hasn’t taken you to Sunday dinner you should walk away, but if you’ve been seeing him steadily for a while and you can sense that things are moving in the right direction, it’s time for the two of you to have a meet-and-greet with your respective friend groups.

If the only calls he’s making are of the “booty” variety…

It’s pretty obvious nowadays that yes, we will all occasionally sleep with someone who we don’t overly like. Sex doesn’t necessarily equal a relationship, but unfortunately, however, there are a few individuals who don’t quite understand that. I know it’s tempting to believe that he’s planning on sharing his last name with you when you’re spending an insane amount of time with this seemingly amazing guy, but if all of that time takes place in and around his bed, a conversation is in order to make sure you’re on the same page. Casual sexual relationships are fun, but never when one wants more than the other is prepared to give them. Don’t settle for being a booty call if you’re not into it.

Ok, so he’s not into me. What now?

No matter what stage of the relationship you’re in, nothing is more isolating and lonely than being in a one-sided relationship. Walking away does not equate to failure, and shouldn’t shake your confidence. Remember in grade school when your parents and teachers would remind you “not everyone is going to like you, and that’s ok”?

Yeah, that.

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